What are some of the things that hold you back from succeeding? Could it be the time factor? Or perhaps it’s that you don’t have the necessary financial resources. Maybe it’s your personality . . . you set up barriers to success even before starting something by thinking it’s not in your nature or you don’t know what to say or do. Perhaps you’re not technically savvy!
Think about it! If you had the opportunity today, to make a huge difference in your life tomorrow or even in the coming months, what would it be worth to you? How much effort would you be willing to put into it? How much time would you devote to this effort?
In today’s hustle and bustle world, with economic uncertainty all around, wouldn’t it be nice to have more time to devote to family and the things in life you truly enjoy? If you were financially secure, wouldn’t that make life so much more enjoyable?
What if there was something that you could do about it? Would you follow through? If push comes to shove, could you overcome your objections and leap over the barriers holding you back from success? How motivated are you to change your situation?
In order to have success, you must know, choose and be who you are. In other words, success is finding who you really are, your core values, then consciously choosing which of these things you want to keep and which you will change or discard. Then let that “you” be present all the time, every day, in all that you do.
The habits you form go hand in hand with success. It’s essential that you form habits that align with your values for you to be successful in whatever area of your life you wish.
Have you assessed the areas that might be holding you back?
Here is a list of potential areas that might be holding you back:
- Waiting for the right moment — this could be disguised as procrastination or even fear. There never really is the right moment so it’s pretty much a waste of time to wait for one. If you are living true to your values, every moment should be acted on within the best of your interests. Be aware and take the opportunity and run with it.
- Needing approval from others – If you understand you are responsible for everything past and present in your life, you will understand that you will be responsible for your future. Taking action and having faith in your own decisions will make you a leader, and you will not need the opinion or approval of others.
- Perfectionism — The need to always be perfect is almost a form of self-harm as it will never happen because perfection does not exist. If you think about it, when is anything ever perfect? It will be much better to be happy and proud of the achievements that are already made, rather than be unhappy when there is always “something else to do”.
- Not apologizing for making mistakes – Admitting when things go wrong is something we are not too comfortable with. The people that you have the best connection with and value the most are ones who are open and honest with you. People respect honesty. If you want to be respected, in business and in life, learn that apologizing for your mistakes is imperative.
- Too stubborn to let go – Nothing lasts forever. Ideas come and go, so will good people, employees, partners, business associates. Learning to let go will allow you move on. You need to find a way to allow things to leave your universe as easy as they came in. It is helpful not to create an emotional attachment to things as they will become harder to let go. You will make way for the new when you lose the emotion and lose the stubbornness. Know that whatever you are holding on to does not define you so no need to cling to it.
- Not willing to do something beyond your duties – As the saying goes “you get out what you put in”, a little more effort goes a long way. The super successful do not sit around reveling in their accomplishments. They are thinking of how they can do more and continue to excel. Step out of your comfort zone and try something you don’t usually do. It may just become addictive!
- Comparing yourself to others – Looking at others and measuring whether you have achieved what they have achieved, or comparing what you own to what they own is unnecessary. Success is a personal matter so find what’s important to you, what success looks and feels like to you, and be in control of that feeling.
- Not assessing your mistakes – we all make mistakes. However, if you repeatedly make the same ones over and over, then it’s time to assess. Ask yourself honest questions. Why the mistakes are happening and why you didn’t act differently from the last time. This assessment will help you find better solutions in the future.
- Spending too long worrying about the outcome – we all worry from time to time. If you let worry take over, this will hinder your success. Realize there is only so much that you can control and many things are out of your control. Continue putting in hard work, relax, and what will be, will be.
- Not working on your weaknesses – We all have weaknesses and it’s a good thing because, for every weakness, you have a strong area. Identify your weak areas and then spend a bit of time daily to work on improvement in these areas.
- Taking life too seriously – We have a lot more on our agendas as adults compared to when we were kids. Life can get you down, but when you feel that way, remember how wonderful life is and think about all the great people and great moments that have helped to bring you to where you are today. Set a goal for yourself. “At work, I’ll always stay focused and think of what to improve.”
Your success is important, but you have full control of making it what you wish.
L Basheer (LB) Hasan – Entrepreneur